Comments on: Enhance Relationships With the 90 Second Rule http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/ Matching calamity with serenity Sun, 07 Mar 2010 15:05:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jared http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/comment-page-1/#comment-1639 Jared Wed, 11 Nov 2009 12:55:05 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/05/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/#comment-1639 Dena, I agree. I've learned so much from that simple passage, "to understand, than to be understood." Thanks for your comments. Dena,
I agree. I’ve learned so much from that simple passage, “to understand, than to be understood.” Thanks for your comments.

]]> By: Dena http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/comment-page-1/#comment-1637 Dena Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:30:44 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/05/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/#comment-1637 Jared, I love this post and this concept. I think we all need to be SO MUCH more aware of this. We all put this into practice, there would be so much less FRUSTRATION in the air and wouldn't that be a great thing! Thank you for sharing this. On a side note this is phenomenal: “Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted – to understand, than to be understood – to love, than to be loved. For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.” -Dena Jared,

I love this post and this concept. I think we all need to be SO MUCH more aware of this. We all put this into practice, there would be so much less FRUSTRATION in the air and wouldn’t that be a great thing! Thank you for sharing this.

On a side note this is phenomenal: “Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted – to understand, than to be understood – to love, than to be loved. For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.”

-Dena

]]> By: Jared http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/comment-page-1/#comment-1628 Jared Fri, 06 Nov 2009 12:49:04 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/05/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/#comment-1628 Nadia, Great story! Thanks for sharing. Amazing how the roles reversed, and you both truly got to experience what the other one felt. Nadia,
Great story! Thanks for sharing. Amazing how the roles reversed, and you both truly got to experience what the other one felt.

]]> By: Nadia - Happy Lotus http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/comment-page-1/#comment-1626 Nadia - Happy Lotus Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:11:38 +0000 http://www.spiritualzen.net/2009/11/05/enhance-relationships-with-the-90-second-rule/#comment-1626 Hi Jared, When I was newly married, I was working from the house and my husband was working outside of the house. When he would come home, I was so happy to have someone else in the house, I would bombard him with all kinds of questions. He was taken back which then made me feel sad and then the whole energy of the place would drop ten feet. This went on for a few days until my husband told me that he needed some time to switch gears. I appreciated the explanation even though it made no sense to me. Eventually, we found a way that made us both happy. Then as karma would have it be, we switched roles. I started to work out of the house and he started to work from home. And would you know it....the first day I came home from work, he hit me with a bunch of questions and I ended up doing what he used to do. It was so funny! I am happy to report that this is no more an issue. Thank God! :) Hi Jared,

When I was newly married, I was working from the house and my husband was working outside of the house. When he would come home, I was so happy to have someone else in the house, I would bombard him with all kinds of questions. He was taken back which then made me feel sad and then the whole energy of the place would drop ten feet.

This went on for a few days until my husband told me that he needed some time to switch gears. I appreciated the explanation even though it made no sense to me. Eventually, we found a way that made us both happy.

Then as karma would have it be, we switched roles. I started to work out of the house and he started to work from home. And would you know it….the first day I came home from work, he hit me with a bunch of questions and I ended up doing what he used to do. It was so funny!

I am happy to report that this is no more an issue. Thank God! :)

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